Uh – Oh! You screwed up badly.
You acted in a way that impacted negatively on you or on your loved ones and You can not let go of the culpability and hating yourself for what you did.
We’ve all been there.
Some of us are in it right now and let it affect us in every possible way.
If you continue to be in such situation, it can only lead you to the big dark world of R.E.G.R.E.T.S.
Regrets happen when you are living a life less than what you are capable of. Something did or did not happen the way you wanted. Either, You have done or have not done something the way you should have.
And more than anything in this world, you desire that time to re-wind and start all over again.
You are hurting yourself and your self worth which is causing you increased stress and depression. You troubled your mind over and over again to re-play the situations of all the things you could have said or done. This is an awful situation. Isn’t it?
Worst is, hiding behind the excuses when life did not take the turn you wanted. This can only make you a victim not a winner.
Regret is a nasty place to be in and you cannot be free from it, if you choose to be stuck in this.
What good does it do to you to continue your life everyday with self blaming.
Regret -Free Life is very much possible and is crucial for your well being.
If we challenge our mindset, Regrets often comes with a great lessons and even greater potential for life.
So how do you get out of it?
3 Steps to get out of regret and live a life full of hopes and happiness.
Take Purposeful action Make the most of your regrets. Do not act from a place of fear, address your weakness and cherish it till it begins to guide you sensibly. When we address our weaknesses we develop a sense of judgement. Take time out to do some journaling. What did you learn from failures and plan your next step better with acquired wisdom from past mistakes. All goof ups are rich in learning. When you mess it up, look at it with a learning perspective and take inspired actions, everything will unfold as per the greater plan. Remember regrets are not real. They are just the thoughts in our mind, fed with low self esteem.
Accept that Past is Unchangeable Hold on to the fact that Past is unchangeable and future is uncertain. Be present in the present. You cannot change what has happened in the past. learn from it and grow with it. Do not let your past incidents cripple you for present and future. Reframe the past as a learning ground. Do not hold it forever. Look unfavourably on the regret and live an intentional life.
Apologise and Forgive Do not be a prisoner of negative thoughts with regret and resentment. Apologise with the ones who trusted you and forgive yourself for messing it up. This is the most challenging part but this is important. We all make mistakes, do not be so harsh on yourself on keeping your expectations so high that you have to be “right” all the time.
All of us have something stored in our memory bank that we wish we could have done differently. You don’t have to beat yourself up all the time for the regrets you hold. You can choose to not let your present and future suffer from it.
Life is never lived backwards, So, practice these three things everyday to stay focused on present and future and let nothing dim your light.
Share in comments what has helped you overcome regrets in life.